My son lost his scholarship—my wife can’t deal with it!

| April 4, 2013

By Gwendolyn Baines

Dear Gwendolyn: The past six months have been nothing but sadness in our home. Two years ago my son was awarded an athletic scholarship to a prestigious high school. The school is costly because mostly children of celebrities attend there. Poor parents and the working class do not attend unless they, like my son, receive scholarship. Even with the scholarship we had to pay $3,000.

This is the problem: When school was out in December for winter/holiday break, we were informed that my son would not be able to continue on his football award. My wife had bragged to all her social club affiliates. The reason the coach gave was that my son was too small body frame. He was constantly getting hurt. My grandmother would not allow me to play football—that’s why I wanted so much for my son to play the game.

Gwendolyn, how can we let our son know that what happened to him is just a normal part of living?


Dear Aaron: Before going into the issue of your son losing his award, I want to caution you about this entire ordeal. Just because your grandmother would not allow you to play the game is no reason you should want your son to play.

Aaron, you and your wife seem to be sad for the wrong reasons. Think about it. Football is dangerous and no boy or man of a certain thin body structure should play. There are more ex-football players who are partially paralyzed (or fully paralyzed) that are never mentioned.

Let me tell you this: Your son should attempt playing baseball or some other sport where size doesn’t matter. Get him more into the academics. After all when players do not make the pros, they seldom find a good paying job. They can only run the ball, but their book learning doesn’t go beyond—the field goal.

Got a problem? Contact Gwen at or P. O. Box 10066, Raleigh, NC 27605-0066. To receive a mailed reply, send a self-addressed stamped envelope. Visit her website at

This article originally appeared in our April 3, 2013 issue.


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