ASK GWENDOLYN by Gwendolyn Baines
Dear Gwendolyn: I have been engaged on and off for more than 10 years to a beautiful lady. Earlier in our relationship I didn’t marry her because her four children didn’t respect me. Their father had told them I was not their father and they didn’t have to listen to me. Their mother did not object to his commands. Therefore, my mother felt I should postpone the marriage. I listened to my mother and canceled all wedding plans. We broke up. Five years later we saw each other at a shopping mall. Her boys are now in their late teens. We admitted to still being in love with each other. My mother thinks her children will remember their father’s teachings. Mother says, “You won’t be happy.”—Rob
Dear Rob: Listen to your mother again. She is right. Do not make wedding plans. In fact, dissolve the renewed courtship before it gets started. Seek someone new. You have heard the saying, “Leftover soup rewarmed does not taste as good.”
Got a problem? Write to Gwendolyn Baines at P.O. Box 10066, Raleigh, NC 27605-0066.
This article originally appeared in our April 24, 2013 issue.