ASK GWENDOLYN By Gwendolyn Baines
Dear Gwendolyn: I have been married for six months. We dated for three months, had a big wedding and now we are thinking—divorce. While dating, he treated me so special. This is the problem: Last weekend he was upset because I went out on the town with my girlfriends from school. We left Friday night and I did not come home until Monday night. I refuse to tell him where I was. I don’t have to work. I married him for financial security. Now, he is thinking of buying a farm. There is no way I am going from the city to the country.
Gwendolyn, I am a city girl. What should I do?
Dear Rose: For all fairness to your husband, move forward in getting a divorce. He does not need you. It is amazing how good men become entangled with wild stallions. By the way, you are not a city girl, but a grown woman. Let me tell you this: Don’t think marrying your husband was cute. What you are throwing away another woman will be glad to have. I am not being critical of your actions, but two people are to love, cherish and respect their vows. He will find a woman who is glad to leave the crime-infected city. She will get up early to gather the eggs, feed the chickens, milk the cows and at the end of the day still have energy—for her man.
Write to Gwendolyn Baines at P.O.Box 10066, Raleigh, NC 27605-0066. (To receive a reply, send a stamped self-addressed envelope). Visit me at: www.gwenbaines.com.
This article originally appeared in the May 29, 2013 print edition.